Driving a wedge....

 Does it come down to me driving a wedge between myself and my blood family, to keep my life whole?

 For the past three years, I’ve tried my best to keep the peace between my family and my husband. I’ve bitten my tongue while they’ve degraded him, and attacked him and his character. And I’ve suffered the disappointment from my loving husband that I did not stand up and defend him.

 This morning was the final straw. My husband is not one that functions well during the day at all, and he’s been forced into working a day job. It has been difficult for him to change his sleeping schedule around to the point that he is getting enough sleep to handle his job and to take care of his other responsibilities. I understand this.  

My paternal grandmother took it upon herself to schedule me for a dental appointment to have my teeth cleaned, for 10:45 am this very morning. Not taking into account the fact that my husband has to go to bed at 6:00 am when I wake up, in order to be able to get up and work in the afternoon. I called her this morning, and asked her to reschedule, politely.

Nope. She wasn’t having any of it, and went off on how my dear husband is such a bastard, and he’s selfish and he thinks the entire world has to revolve around him, blah blah blah, and it goes on and on like that. I finally told her to shut up, that she was being obnoxious, that she had no right at all to insult my husband or my family like that, and to cancel the appointment. And I hung up on her.

Now, maybe I didn’t handle it in the best fashion, but I am sick and tired of people, especially my family members, coming to me and thinking they can insult my husband! First of all, why is it my responsibility to be the scapegoat here, so that you have someone you can bitch at and know your insults will get to their intended target, without actually having to confront that target?

Secondly, where do you get off scheduling me for a dentist’s appointment, without so much as a by your leave? Yes, my teeth are not perfect, but I brush them each day. If they’re not as white as you would like, then that is your problem now isn’t it?

I’m done. I’m tired of letting you all walk all over me, insulting my family and my lifestyle. So, it is not perfect. So, we’re scrounging from month to month to make sure we have enough money for food and diapers. I will NOT have you insult me, or my family, or my life, or lifestyle. This is my den and I am the ALPHA BITCH! So I will drive that wedge if I must. If you wish me in your life, you will figure out that we come as a package deal, or not at all.